Inside Eminem and Hailie Jade Mathers' private father-daughter bond (2024)

Originally appeared on E! Online

Eminemshared in his 2002 hit "Cleanin' Out My Closet" that daughter "Hailie's gettin' so big now, you should see her, she's beautiful."

"But," he said, "you'll never see her—she won't even be at your funeral!"

The apple of his eye,Hailie Jade Mathers, was only 6 then, giving her dad and mom, the rapper whose real name isMarshall Mathersand his ex-wifeKim Scott — the final say in who saw her. And for most of her life, minus the small handful of baby pics that ended up in circulation, you did not see her and shemost certainly did not go to your funeral.

But, Mathers is 27 years old now,engaged to be married, and has long since beenqueen of her own image, and she's got3.1 million Instagram followersto show forit.

And though you'll see the occasionalshot of herfiancéEvan McClintock, what you still won't see on her well-curated page are pictures of the influencer and herdad together.

Even when they'reboth rooting for their hometown Detroit LionsatFord Field, as they did during the NFL team's Oct. 8win overthe Carolina Panthers.

"football, family and seemingly ranch," Mathers captioned a few pics, including a shot of herTaylor Swift-reminiscent dipping sauce.

Eminem, who's celebrating his 51st birthday Oct. 17, also got in onthe action, topping off his "Detroit strong!!!"captionwith a resounding "let's f--kin gooooo!!!!"

And in the rarest of rare moves, his slides included asnippet of the videoshown on the stadium'sbig screenas "Lose Yourself" pounded throughout the stadium, which provided a quick glimpse of their outing.

But as much as Mathers fueled herfather'smusic over the years, let alone his drive to succeed and give his family everything he didn't have as a kid, somewhere along thewaythey seem to have agreed that, share what he will in song, the actual time Eminem and his daughter spent together wasgoing to remain private.

Theirelusiveness begged the question of whether she saw her father much at all, to which Mathers replied when shegranted DailyMail.comher first-ever interview in 2018, "Of course, we're very close."

Mathersspent most of her youthunder Eminem's 15,000-square-foot roof in theDetroit suburbs withhalf-sisterWhitney, mom Scott's daughter from anotherrelationship, andcousinAlaina Marie Scott, the daughter of Scott's twin sister,Dawn.

"My kids are comfortable here. I want them to have the stability I didn't," Eminem, whowalked Alaina down the aisleat her June 9 wedding toMatt Moeller,toldRolling Stonein 2011about continuing to live in the area, albeit a world away from where he grew up on the east side of Detroit, just south of 8 Mile Road.

But by 2018,Mathers was living in her own four-bedroom home not far from the familyroost and was just getting serious with Evan.

"i rarely share my feed, but when i do i'm happy it's with you," shecaptioned a couple's picin July 2021, winking at the fact that she usually poses solo for the 'gram.

"No babies, she has a boyfriend, but she's doing good," Eminem said of Matherse in extremely rare non-musical remarks about his family onMike Tyson's YouTube showHotboxin'in March 2020. "She's made me proud for sure. She's graduated from college."

"When I think about my accomplishments, that's probably the thing I'm the most proud of is being able to raise kids," he continued. "It's important to keep your kids grounded when they're in a situation like I have, it's very important. People also think, too, that money just buys happiness—that absolutely is not the truth. You've got to be right inside otherwise none of thiss--tmeans nothing."

Mathersdidn'topen her Instagram account until 2016, when she was 20, so Eminem could rest assured that she didn't hastily rush into going public like some celebrity kids. Because, as he later shared through his 2017albumRevival, he did have some regrets about making his daughter such a prominentcharacter in the personal domestic drama thatso often played out in his music from day one, including his overtly hostilejabs at Mather's mother, who once upon a time was his high school sweetheart.

"Grab a couple of toys and let Dada strap you in the car seat / Oh, where's Mama? She's taking a little nap in the trunk," he rapped on "97 Bonnie & Clyde"—called "Just the Two of Us" on his 1997 releaseSlim Shady EP—which he recorded alongside his toddler.

"I lied to Kim and told her I was taking Mathers to Chuck E. Cheese that day," hetoldRollingStone. "But I took her to the studio. When she found out I used our daughter to write a song about killing her, she f--ing blew. We had just got back together for a couple of weeks. Then I played her the song, and she bugged the f--k out."

That being said, Eminem and Scott still got married in 1999. Their first union lasted only two years—or nearly twice as long as their 2006 marriage, which began that January and ended in April. But for the sake of the kids, they got their act together and stayed friendly, so much so that in 2010 they were the subject of promptly debunked rekindling rumors.

"I said your name but always tried to hide your face," he rapped in 2017 on "Castles," off ofRevival,lamenting that Mathers ever had to shoulder any of his baggage just because she was his kid. "This game is crazy / I wanted to claim my love for you but damn/ I never knew it'd be like this/ If I did, I wouldn't have done it/ You ain't asked for none of this s–t. / Now you're being punished?/ Things that should've been private with me and your mother is public."

All told, Mathers, either one of her monikersor just her existence, hasfeatured in almost two dozen songs over the course of his career. ("Hailie, baby, I didn't mean to make you80 percent of what I rapped about," he offered in 2017's "In Your Head.")

The height of his daughter's involuntary fameprobably came in 2002thanks toThe Eminem Show'sdueling tracks "Hailie's Song" ("My baby girl keeps getting older / I watch her grow up with pride / People make jokes, ‘cause they don't understand me / They just don't see my real side / I act like s--t don't faze me / Inside it drives me crazy / My insecurities could eat me alive / But then I see my baby / Suddenly I'm not crazy / It all makes sense when I look into her eyes") and "My Dad's Gone Crazy."

The latter of whichfeatures 6-year-old Mather'sunforgettable "I think my dad's gonecray-zeh!" hook,which, EminemtoldRolling Stonein 2004, she came up with.

"If I feel like I'm working too much, I let the kids come up to the studio," he said, explaining how their collaboration came about. "I get this little guilt trip inside, so I would have Kim just bring her up and let her hang around the studio. So me and[Dr.]Drewere working together, and Mathers was running around the studio and she was like [in a little girl high voice], 'Somebody please help me! I think my dad's gone crazy!'"

"Instantly that locked in with a beat we'd made the day before," he continued. "I went to my house, and I had her go in the booth and say it. When she opens up, she's just like her dad in a lot of aspects. I just told her what to say and she nailed it, the first take. It almost was scary, to where I had to slow it down."

"I don't know if I wanna put her on any more songs. I don't wanna make her any more famous. She can live a life. She didn't choose to have her father become a rap star. Nor my niece, nor my brother. So they're able to go outside and live a normal life, go to stores and do things normally that I can't do. Which is why, a lot of times, certain things I can't be there for."

Eminem said he didnotmiss out on school-related activities, however, "even if I gotta deal with the craziness." The year before, he shared, he had even gone in to read two books to Mathers class. "And the teachers are really good about telling the kids, 'When Hailie's dad comes in, he's Hailie's dad, Mr. Mathers.'"

But so much of his daughter-related lyrics reflect his fear of not being there for them, whether because he's on the road or, more often, because he's gone for good, a scenario he alludes to in 2017's "Arose": "Smile pretty for pictures, always cherish each other / I'll always love ya/ And I'll be in the back of your memory / And I know you'll never forget me/ Just don't get sad when remembering."

It makes sense then, that back in 2011, he toldRolling Stonethat, to him, being a good father meant "just being there. Not missing things. If there's anything important going on, regardless of what it is, I'm there. Helping them with homework when you can. At the grades my older ones are in, it's hard." He added with a laugh,"I never even passed ninth grade. They're already way smarter than me." (Hehad since completed hisGED.)

And it broke his heart whenever they couldn't be together, such as when he was hospitalized in 2007 following a methadone overdose.

"I think I'd been out for two days, and when I woke up, I didn't realize it was Christmas," Eminem toldRolling Stone. "So the first thing I wanted to do was call my kids. I wanted to get home, and show them that Dad's OK." It was "definitely" hard to miss the holiday,not to mention Mather's Dec. 25 birthday."Being a father, wanting to be there with your kids. It's not a fun thing to deal with."

On 2017's "Arose,"the scene is a hospital bed as he thinks he'sdying from an overdose,and he raps, "And it's your birthday, Jade / I'm missing your birthday/ Baby girl, I'm sorry," a regret ripped right from reality.

Withall the multi-platinum sales, prolific creative output and headlines about what he said out in the world and what peoplethoughthewas saying inhis music,Eminem becameone of themost influential and controversial artists of his era.But he struggled through the '00s, with his personal life, legal issues anda prescription pill addiction, which he kicked for good in 2008,marking 12 years of sobrietyin 2020.

"To my babies, stay strong / Daddy'll be home soon," he rapped on "Beautiful," from 2009'sRecovery.

Because throughout, it was only aboutstaying alive so he could be there. Which he is, but that's not for anyone on the outside of the inner circle to see.

When Mather's graduated from high school with honors in 2014, in the school's commemoratory newsletter she named her mom and dad as the biggest influences in her life,"because they have pushed me to be the person I am and have given me all the support to achieve what I have."